Greta Christina on Atheism and Sexuality
One money quote:
Personal revulsion should not translate into moral revulsion…
If we don’t like porn and our sexual partner does, we don’t get to say, “Porn upsets me, therefore you’re a bad person for enjoying it.” If we want our relationship to be monogamous and our sexual partner doesn’t, we don’t get to say, “Non-monogamy freaks me out, and you’re a bad person for wanting it.” If we’re not interested in bondage and our sexual partner wants to try it, we don’t get to say, “Bondage scares me, therefore you’re a bad person for being curious about it.”
And the reverse of that is also true. If we are interested in bondage and our partner isn’t, we don’t get to accuse them of being unadventurous and uptight….
We need to base our decisions on principles of consent, honesty, fairness, and harm, not on the principle of what we find disgusting.



